Just here to give raw advice. Writer. Not an expert
Some women make the mistake of jumping into bed quickly with someone whatever the reason may be. Attraction is something you can’t help, whether it’s lust, love or infatuation I think that a woman should always enjoy what she does without any regrets. Sometimes, when things get hot in the moment it can be hard to turn back. There is nothing wrong with enjoying an intimate moment with someone you trust and feel comfortable with.
What happens when you realize after an encounter it wasn’t what you thought or maybe it happened too fast? It’s not too late to recover.
Here are my tips:
First, I have to push the fact that sex won’t make a man stay or get closer to you either unless those are his intentions with you from the beginning. Don’t ever think it will save, fix or change the way he feels. Sometimes women make the mistake of having sex quickly, it’s nothing really to feel bad about, and I know it can be hard if you expected more but it’s about not repeating yourself. Here’s the deal, if a guy really likes you, he wouldn’t be in a rush!
So if he’s in a rush or only talking about sex, there you go. Trust me, we have all been there. We like the guy, don’t see his flaws, don’t care even. Time to “raise” standards ladies, there’s a world full of men that aren’t assholes—you have to have some sort of faith. I say if you don’t then maybe casual sex isn’t for you. I wouldn’t continue to indulge, it can get very personal after time if there is no agreement from the beginning. The gray area is an uncomfortable and confusing place to be.
It’s important to try and not make the same mistake twice. This can be difficult if there is an emotional attachment or other issues involved, however, if you keep going back you may get the same results. You have to look at the situation openminded which can be hard in the moment. It happened, it’s over there is nothing you can do about the past, but you can control the present and the future. If you don’t want the same results and want to move on, you can’t keep doing the same thing. Trust me, time does heal indeed.
Keeping yourself busy and away from the situation or person can help too. It is normal to feel different feelings like shame or guilt but it is important to move forward. You can’t beat yourself up about it, you have to accept what you did and put it behind you, and know you are not alone! Take care of yourself and never regret anything that you do. Use this time for growth and reflection.
“Time heals nothing, unless you move along with it”